People generally have two kinds of needs during a home
purchase. First are the transactional needs, such as searching for
a home, obtaining financing, negotiating the terms of purchase, completing
paperwork and legal documents, and arranging the move. The second are
emotional needs that are involved in a home purchase, which can be
where the most stress occurs in a home purchase. The following are
just a handful of tips to help you and your family ease the stress
of moving.
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Although you may
have lived in your current residence for just a few years, the same
few years can be half the lifetime of a seven- or eight-year-old,
and can include all the years he or she can remember. Your current
residence may be the only home your children have ever known, where
they feel safe and comfortable. It may be the center of your childrens'
world.
Be sure to announce
the move in a completely positive way. You might talk about how beautiful
the neighborhood is and how good the schools are. Bring your children
to the new house, if you live close enough that it is possible to
do so. Otherwise, positively describe the new house. Find out what
your children's favorite things are in your current home, and then
try to re-create them in the new home. Keep your children actively
involved in the process. For instance, don't just promise that they
can decorate their new rooms, but take them shopping for paint, bedspreads,
carpets, and other items that will make the experience more fun and
comforting.
Your children are
bound to have worries, fears, and sorrows during the move. They may
be moving away from friends and family they have known their whole
lives. Find ways to make parting pleasant. You can plan a going-away
party and let your children invite their own guests. Take pictures
of everyone and create a photo album. If your children are old enough,
allow them to take pictures of the neighborhood that they will want
to remember.
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You may feel a sense
of being out of control, as though other parties to the purchase
transaction are running the show and you're merely getting in their
way. Your mortgage company, the appraiser, the inspector, and the
seller all have certain powers to approve or disapprove of your overall
plan to purchase this home and move successfully. This is certainly
not easy!
Although this can
feel stressful, one of the best things you can do for your own peace
of mind is to understand as much of the purchase process as possible.
Your RealtorŪ will be able to prepare you for unknowns ahead of time
and tie down loose ends as soon as possible.
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There can be so much
to do that it's easy to panic. It may feel like you're taking a big
risk, but the truth is that you're initiating a big opportunity for
you and your family. Even though you can't predict what will happen
every step of the way, your RealtorŪ helps people buy and sell homes
as a profession! Your RealtorŪ has been there before and understands
that this is a major upheaval in your life. Trust that your RealtorŪ is
looking out for you on your way to a successful closing and move.
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Knowing that your
RealtorŪ will do everything possible to prepare you for the various
processes involved in your home purchase, and will tie up those loose
ends quickly and efficiently, it's important for you to remember
that there is no such thing as a perfect world. The property inspection
may reveal areas of concern, or closing may be delayed for some reason.
Try to take a deep breath and be flexible in your thinking. You will
have a much greater chance of making your decisions based on logic
and not high emotion.
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